Tips to get you through a bad day

Tips to get you through a bad day

Andrew Fuller gives us some practical tips on how to get over the worst, lousy, rotten dreadful day ever!

They don’t happen often but they do happen. Days that are so awful we want them over as soon as possible. Everyone has them: lousy, rotten, dreadful days when absolutely nothing goes right. The dark clouds of negativity surround us. We feel flat or angry or agitated. Everything we try to do to improve our feelings backfires and it feels like life is ‘going to hell in a hand basket’.

These are days that we want ended as quickly as possible. Everyone has had days when they thought the best thing they could do is to go to bed and finish the day so that a new one can begin.

But what if it is ten in the morning and it’s just too damn early to go back to bed? 

Let’s talk about some ways of getting through.

It is what it is

On days like this it’s hard to see a cheery side to anything. The mega-vicious malevolence of these moments puts these days into a class of their own. It is useful to remember these days are rare.  However, exceptionally bad days call for exceptional responses.

Stop trying to improve things

As a general rule most attempts to improve things on a bad day backfires. So stop. The world is having, ‘one of those days’ and you especially are having one of those days. You can’t fix it. Accept it and focus on finding ways to get though it.

Withdraw

To borrow a sporting phrase, on the great scoreboard of life the phrase “retired-hurt” should appear next to your name. Consider staying home, switching off the phone and the news, and focusing on surviving.

You can’t predict the future

On bad days we can fall into the trap into feeling that life is always going to be like this. This is to deny the true evil vortex that a day like this creates. Accept it for its unique rottenness. On the scales of life, this day is the absolute pits.

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Control your exposure to other people

On tough days having too many people to deal with can be draining and toxic. Run away. If you need to, invent a 24-hour virus, a major headache or tummy bug.

 Think long and hard before spending time with anyone. People love to have opinions about things but on this day of all days you may not want them shared with you. You may have a few trusted calm people that you can let know, “I’m having a bad day today. I don’t need you to try and fix it but I would really appreciate spending some time talking to you about other things so I can get through it.”

Dive into a different world.

Once you have determined the day is much worse than you anticipated and heading for worser, escape is a sane response. If there is a book you’ve been meaning to read, a TV series you’ve been wanting to view or a computer game you’ve been meaning to conquer, this is a good day for it. While some people seek refuge in churches, others find the darkened room of going to the cinema by themselves works. Order the popcorn.

 Seek out beauty

On these days you may not be at your most appreciative. Even so, walking in gardens, visiting a conservatory or even strolling through an art gallery may help.

 

Get physical

Generally exercise alters our mood so you could go for a walk, a run, to a gym or for a bike ride. Be careful though. Take care of yourself. We don’t want you to end up with a twisted ankle or in a head-over-the-handlebars situation.

Spruce yourself up a bit

Have a shower or bath. Freshen up. Put on some scent that smells good. Wear clothes that make you feel good. Just because you feel awful doesn’t mean you can’t look great.

Eat

This is not the day for dieting or denial. Stay away from mirrors and harsh self-criticism. Cook or buy your favourite foods. Think pasta. Think chocolate. Think comfort. Enjoy these foods and try not to guilt-trip yourself later on for enjoying them.

Music

On days like this some people find dour, sad music to be a comfort. It’s almost as if it reminds us that someone else in the history of humanity has bad days also. Others, of course, might like to play pump-you-up-positive music.

Talk to an animal

Find a pet or even a passing bird and confide the sort of day you’re having to them. They’ll listen. Who knows? They might even secretly think, “There are days being human sounds like it would be hell.”

 Take a check up from the neck up

On tough days our thoughts go around and around inside our heads. Sometimes we blame ourselves. Expressing your thoughts can start to shift them. Write it out, draw it out, grab a musical instrument and play it out. Get those troubles out of your head and on to some paper.

 Acceptance

Accepting that the day is one when the excrement has hit the air ventilation system big time goes a long way towards surviving it. Treat yourself as you would kindly treat a child who is feeling poorly. Make yourself a nice warm drink and go to bed early. Tomorrow is going to be a different day.

Good luck!

Of course if you have a lot of bad days get some professional help.

Andrew Fuller

 

Andrew’s new book, Your Best Life at Any Age (Bad Apple Press) is out now.

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